7 Awesome Charities To Donate To This Year

Click on the links I provided below the video to Donate

Breast Cancer Research Foundation

Leukemia & Lymphoma Society

Generosity.org

March Of Dimes

Ryes Center

VH1 Save The Music

Make A Wish

Language Barriers Create Country Borders

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We all should learn a new language not just to communicate, but to be able to get a better understanding of others around us. We need to start the process for the generations to come to live life where we all get along and live in a world where we survive together instead of fighting one another. We should be able to live in a world without borders or barriers, but it begins with language……Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

我們都應該學習一種新的語言不只是溝通,但要能更好地理解我們周圍的人。我們需要啟動該進程為世世代代居住生活的地方,我們都相處和生活在一個世界裡,我們生存的戰鬥,而不是彼此在一起。我們應該能夠生活在一個沒有邊界或障礙,但它開始用語言。……Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Todos deberíamos aprender un nuevo idioma no sólo para comunicarse, sino ser capaz de obtener una mejor comprensión de los que nos rodean. Tenemos que empezar el proceso para las generaciones por venir a vivir la vida en el que todos llevamos y vivimos en un mundo donde sobrevivimos juntos en lugar de luchar entre sí. Debemos ser capaces de vivir en un mundo sin fronteras ni barreras, pero comienza con el lenguaje…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Мы все должны выучить новый язык не только для общения, но, чтобы иметь возможность получить лучшее понимание окружающих нас. Мы должны начать процесс для будущих поколений жить жизнью, где все мы вместе и жить в мире, где мы выживаем вместе, а не бороться друг с другом. Мы должны быть в состоянии жить в мире без границ и барьеров, но это начинается с языка…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Nous devrions tous apprendre une nouvelle langue et pas seulement de communiquer , mais pour être en mesure d’obtenir une meilleure compréhension des autres autour de nous . Nous devons commencer le processus pour les générations à venir de vivre la vie où nous entendons tous et nous vivons dans un monde où nous survivons ensemble au lieu de se battre les uns les autres . Nous devrions être en mesure de vivre dans un monde sans frontières ni barrières , mais il commence avec la langue…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

يجب علينا جميعا أن نتعلم لغة جديدة ليس فقط للتواصل، ولكن لتكون قادرة على الحصول على فهم أفضل من الآخرين من حولنا. نحن بحاجة للبدء في عملية للأجيال القادمة أن تعيش حياة حيث أننا جميعا الحصول على طول ونعيش في عالم حيث نعيش معا بدلا من محاربة بعضهم البعض. يجب أن نكون قادرين على العيش في عالم من دون حدود أو حواجز، ولكنها تبدأ مع اللغة…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Noi tutti dovremmo imparare una nuova lingua, non solo per comunicare, ma per essere in grado di ottenere una migliore comprensione di altri intorno a noi. Abbiamo bisogno di avviare il processo per le generazioni a venire a vivere la vita in cui siamo tutti d’accordo e viviamo in un mondo in cui sopravviviamo insieme invece di combattere l’un l’altro. Dovremmo essere in grado di vivere in un mondo senza confini o barriere, ma inizia con il linguaggio…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Tất cả chúng ta nên học một ngôn ngữ mới không chỉ để giao tiếp, nhưng để có thể có được một sự hiểu biết tốt hơn về những người khác xung quanh chúng ta. Chúng tôi cần phải bắt đầu quá trình cho các thế hệ mai để sống cuộc sống mà tất cả chúng ta được cùng sống trong một thế giới mà chúng ta tồn tại với nhau thay vì chiến đấu với nhau. Chúng tôi sẽ có thể sống trong một thế giới không biên giới hoặc các rào cản, nhưng nó bắt đầu với ngôn ngữ…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Dapat namin ang lahat ng malaman ng isang bagong wika ay hindi lamang upang makipag-usap, ngunit upang magagawang upang makakuha ng isang mas mahusay na pag-unawa ng iba sa paligid sa amin. Kailangan namin upang simulan ang proseso para sa mga darating na henerasyon sa live na buhay na kung saan namin ang lahat ng makakuha ng kasama at mabuhay sa isang mundo kung saan nagpapatuloy kami magkasama sa halip na labanan ang isa’t isa. Kami ay dapat ma upang mabuhay sa isang daigdig na walang hangganan o hadlang, ngunit ito ay nagsisimula sa wika…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Մենք բոլորս պետք է սովորել նոր լեզու է ոչ միայն շփվելու, այլեւ կարողանան ստանալ ավելի լավ հասկանալ, թե ուրիշների շրջապատում: Մենք պետք է սկսել գործընթացը, որ սերունդների է ապրել կյանքը, որտեղ մենք բոլորս միասին, եւ ապրել մի աշխարհում, որտեղ մենք գոյատեւել միասին, այլ ոչ թե պայքարում են մեկը մյուսին. Մենք պետք է կարողանանք ապրել մի աշխարհում, առանց սահմանների եւ արգելքների, բայց դա սկսվում լեզվով…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Wir alle sollten eine neue Sprache nicht nur zu kommunizieren, aber in der Lage, ein besseres Verständnis der anderen um uns herum zu sein zu lernen. Wir müssen den Prozess zu starten für die kommenden Generationen zu leben, wo wir alle zusammen zu bekommen und leben in einer Welt, wo wir zusammen statt gegeneinander kämpfen zu überleben leben. Wir sollten in der Lage, in einer Welt ohne Grenzen oder Barrieren zu leben, aber es beginnt mit der Sprache…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Ba chóir dúinn go léir teanga nua ní hamháin a chur in iúl, ach a bheith in ann a fháil tuiscint níos fearr ar dhaoine eile thart timpeall orainn a fhoghlaim. Ní mór dúinn chun tús a chur le próiseas do na glúine atá le teacht an saol nuair a fháil againn go léir chomh maith agus ag maireachtáil i ndomhan ina maireachtáil againn le chéile in ionad an troid a chéile chun maireachtáil. Ba cheart dúinn a bheith in ann maireachtáil i ndomhan gan teorainneacha nó bacainní, ach tosaíonn sé le teanga…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Waxaan oo dhan waa iney bartaan luqad cusub ma ahan oo keliya in ay la xiriiraan, laakiin si ay u awoodaan in ay helaan faham wanaagsan oo dadka nagu wareegsan. Waxaan u baahanahay si ay u bilaabaan habka loo jiilasha soosocda in ay ku noolaadaan nolol halka aan dhan u hesho iyo ku noolnahay adduun halkaas oo aan ku noolaan wada halkii ay dagaal midba midka kale. Waa in aan awoodin in ay ku noolaadaan dunida oo aan xuduudaha ama caqabadaha, laakiin waxay ka bilaabanaysaa afka…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Ние всички трябва да научат нов език не само да общуват, но за да бъде в състояние да получи по-добро разбиране на другите около нас. Ние трябва да започне процеса за идните поколения да живеят живот, където всички ние се разбираме и да живеем в един свят, където можем да оцелеят заедно, вместо да се биете един на друг. Трябва да можем да живеем в свят без граници или бариери, но тя започва с език…….Samantha E. Jonas-Rongo

Don’t Always Baby Your Baby

Don’t Always Baby Your Baby

It is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings

Good parents realize that there is always much more for them to learn about in regards to being “good parents”. In a perfect world, parents would all have boundless energy, patience, knowledge, tolerance, understanding and flexibility, but no one is perfect. There is so much more to being a parent than just putting them to sleep, feeding them and buying their necessities. It also includes having a wide variety of practical skills in which more than majority of parents aren’t equipped with to have the ability to inquire, or even have the knowledge of the skill’s being, let alone their importance and affects.

When it comes to my stepson,  or my own future biological children….it is not my job — and it is certainly not anyone else’s — to prevent them from feeling frustration, fear, or discomfort. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn that those things are not the end of the world, and can be overcome or used to their advantage.

If they get stuck, it is not my job or anyone else’s to save them immediately. If I do, I have robbed them of the opportunity to learn to calm themselves, assess their situation, and try to problem solve their own way out of it.

  • I don’t want my children to learn that they can’t overcome obstacles without help.
  • I don’t want them to learn that they can reach great heights without effort.
  • I don’t want them to learn that they are entitled to the reward without having to push through whatever it is that’s holding them back and EARN it.
  • I want my children to know the exhilaration of overcoming fear and doubt and achieving a hard-won success.
  • I want them to believe in their own abilities and be confident and determined in their actions.
  • I want them to accept their limitations until they can figure out a way past them on their own significant power.
  • I want them to feel capable of making their own decisions, developing their own skills, taking their own risks, and coping with their own feelings.
  • I want them to climb that ladder on the slide without any help, because they can. I know it. If I give them a little space, they will soon know it too.

Because, as they grow up, the ladders will only get taller, and scarier, and much more difficult to climb. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather help them learn the skills they’ll need to navigate them now, while a misstep means a bumped head or scraped knee that can be healed with a kiss, while the most difficult of hills can be conquered by chanting, “I think I can” to “I know I can” to “I did it”

Samantha Jonas-Rongo

My Every Day Dillema

PROUD TO BE NATIVE AMERICAN, AFRICAN AMERICAN AND NIGERIAN

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Seriously my situation, no one ever guesses im black and white its always hispanic they think I am until they see my dad

Even after I explain my ethnicity, people still assume I speak Spanish. I have even been told that I should  because even “Puerto Ricans”, “Dominicans” and “Cubans” stem from African, European, Native American and Spanish roots and Spanish is their native language. Well, I’m not Puerto Rican, Cuban nor Dominican and neither is anyone in my bloodline of my ancestry. I do not have Spanish nor European roots and no one on my mothers Native American side speaks Spanish and neither does anyone from my father’s African American and Nigerian side, so I’m unable to speak Spanish to benefit your racist stereotypical expectations. I’m proud to be a Native, Nigerian and African American.

You want to fix racism, start in the mirror.

BASED UPON WHO BUILT THIS COUNTRY, LOOKS AS THOUGH I AM A TRUE AMERICAN.

-Samantha Jonas-Rongo

I Am a Mother, Accept It

I Am a Mother, Accept It

A mother is a mother; is a mother. I don’t care if she gives birth, adopts, fosters, or is co-parenting her boyfriend’s/ fiancé’s/ husband’s kid(s) with his kids’ mother.

Giving birth immediately makes a woman a mother, a bio mother, but not necessarily a parent. A mother, yes, this is biological destiny, a religious blessing, and simple anatomy science. This is fact. It does not matter if she is not raising her child. It does not matter if she does not play any significant role in the child’s life at all. It does not matter who she is or what she does for a living or how much money she has or what her IQ is. The fact that she gave birth is indisputable. It makes her a biological mother, but not a parent.

Adopting or fostering makes one a mother and a parent. You have a legal document that says so. You are doing the mothering, parenting and the loving. You are building a relationship and a history with your child. You are a mom.

Mom is in the term “step-mom”.  Again, you are building a relationship, and a history with a child, or children, they’re your child, your children.

I am a mom as well. I didn’t give birth to any, but I am a mother, accept it.

To those many woman in my shoes or alike, that’s loving, providing for and protecting a child or children that’s not theirs, you are a mother to that child or children, regardless of their bio moms availability, relationship or opinion. In your heart, as well as the child(ren)s, their father’s, maybe mother’s (depending on your sexual preference), you do have a role without boundaries, because your love has none. Don’t believe you have a place that is limited or a role that is minimum, you loving a child that’s not yours is normal, not weird. A woman who’s says its weird is a woman who has the inability to do it herself.

When another woman takes place in a childs life, this woman is automatically a bad character in too many mothers eye’s. Some even take it to the extent to share that opinion with their child(ren). She now becomes topic in conversation amongst a mother’s conversation with her family and friends, but majority of the time, a jealous, classless and even coniving woman makes it a negative one almost everytime. Some are even caught in lies when others from her party try to intervene.

It’s still a valid question to ask why do many woman say they want to know who’s around their child(ren), but do not take the time to learn about them woman to woman. She may say she wants to see if she’s a good person, but when she finds the good, its not shared amongst her circle, but she rather negatively discuss her and even tease her flaws. Most likely because that other woman is a better woman, and may even make a better mother. In the end, from the very beginning, a mother can continue to show that the only negative woman involved in that child’s life is the actual mother herself with her rude comments, disrespectful, and even violent demeanor towards the woman she expects to be of high value to be good enough for her child(ren).

 

Why does it feel like some bio-moms need to make it a war, or a competition? Someone always has to be the loser, and the other the winner. Or another woman has to be trying to take over instead of working with. Some women and their “territory”, it’s sad. A child isn’t property. A child is human aren’t they? Aren’t people, people, and not ones property?

Why must a woman be able to accept another woman as a mother figure, and even call them mom, ma or say they are “like” or “are” their mom, but when it comes to their own child(ren), no other woman can be that to them? Why must she ask her child(ren) if the other woman makes them call her mom? Or even tell their child(ren) never to call her mom? Eventually the child(ren) will realize that his or her neighbors, celebrity idols, friends, and other family members call another woman mom or ma and realize it is normal, and not a crime. Thus, he or she will then realize how selfish, immature and even jealous their mother is or was, and will call that other woman ma or mom at their own will.

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What many of us woman need to understand is, is that woman who do act like that, are woman who do not have the ability or willingness to love, and nurture a child that is not their own, and maybe one that is as well. She cannot be with a man who has children Of his own nor take care of a child or children who isn’t hers and provide that child with what One needs emotionally and spiritualy to grow healthy and happy.

You’re a mother. She’s a mother. You’re a mother. I’m a mother, accept it.

How does a child have the ability to have a step-father, or simply have a man around and involved, who’s not their father, in their life, but another woman can’t step foot near or have time spent with them and a step mom is of nonexistence and is treated as a crime? I’m confused.

Be glad that a child of yours has extra love and guidance in their life. Even though you may have used, or use your child(ren) as pawns, doesn’t mean that “house” is a game that another woman plays with your child(ren) as its pieces.

“This is MY child”, “These are MY kids”, an unconfident or threatened woman would reply or start a conversation with. Obviously the other woman didn’t give birth, you did, so that is not needed to be mentioned. You aren’t proving a point of who’s the mother, or that you are the one in control, you’re showing how weak, threatened and unconfident you are as a woman, as a mother.

A woman who shows that persona when it comes to her own, and shows her over protectiveness to a man that has children himself, shows that his children will never be priority nor good enough to be considered her own and therefore, that relationship nor any other will work. It scares and turns off a man, its shows far off from being a loving woman and a mature mother.

It is crazy and completely irrational, but one may think another woman is trying to take her kid(s) from her, or that their kid(s) would like the other woman better and wish she were their mom instead. A not so great mother with a guilty conscience or unconfident woman feels her motherhood has been threatened or questioned, like perhaps she was being judged and maybe she has been discovered as not a good enough parent. But, a great and confident mother would know better, and therefore would do better.

Love is what makes a mother, not just biological science or spiritual religion.

Whether our children are biological, adopted, fostered, step or spiritual, love is what gives us that role of influence in another’s life. We are mothers because we love, and love is paired, so often and necessarily, with sacrifice.

Having a heart doesn’t make you compassionate any more than having a brain makes you intelligent. You had the tools to create a child as any woman does, but that doesn’t mean you have the correct priorities or guidance to raise one. Some woman, and their so-called “motherly love, fight and awareness”, it’s sad and even sadder of the lack of knowledge and commitment some have to fulfill the role of a positive, rational and loving mother.

Good mothers set a high enough bar of being ones mother and a confident and mature mother would not be in fear of losing the role she loved and valued so much. If she knew she was doing the job correctly, there would be nothing to fear, only something to gain, the additional love that her child(ren) would endure. And being a mother involves sacrificing your own pride for your child(ren)’s emotional well-being and allowing your child to love another.

Love and sacrifice.

The love we give, and the sacrifices us woman make for the love we give is what makes us mothers. Its about what our child(ren) needs, not what we want. I will be dressed in rags before I keep my stepson, well my son, away from what pleases him. He wants to do martial arts, my hair appointments will now take place in my own bathroom. He needs extra support with school work, I will adjust my schedule. He wants to spend more time with me, my nights out come to an end. He is the son of my fiancé, I am the fiancé of his father. In the same, I am a mother, he is my son. He’s not a part of my biological DNA, but we are both major key parts in each other’s positive emotional well-being, spiritual world and life in whole.

It was love that led Christ to come to earth, and it was love that led him to, and through the cross. As women made in his image, we are called to love and serve those in our care, whether they are our physical or spiritual children. But truly loving and sacrificing for others is costly, in small and large ways. And in this way, it is Love that makes us mothers. We need not be biological mothers to fulfill the role.

I am a mother, accept it.

– Samantha Jonas-Rongo

I love you

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Keep Calm and Love Animals

“In order to learn it’s strength, purpose, and ability to build happy, healthy relationships, everybody deserves a chance to love and to be loved: so do animals”…..Samantha Jonas-Rongo

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Keep calm and Love Animals                                                                                Samantha Jonas-Rongo 

I love all of the animals of my family. I don’t like to use the label or term, “pet”, so I don’t. They are my family and I love them as so. We have one dog and two cats.

Kaine, our entertaining and rambunctious 18 month American Red Nosed Pit-bull has blessed our lives when he was only 8 weeks old. He has grown very quickly and is filled with so much energy and love for all of us and those he comes across.

My eldest feline friend, who we have had since she was 4 weeks old, is now 5 months and is an intelligent and affectionate black and white Tuxedo cat, who I must say loves to cuddle and has the most softest fur to compliment. She’s one of the first things I see when I wake in the morning and of the last things before I go to bed.

Then the youngest member of our tribe; Kyra, is our cinnamon swirl, American Short Haired cat. She is now almost 4 months old and she has been a joy in our life for more than 3 of those months. She is still growing, learning and maturing but is doing it fairly quickly.

We have fed each one of these amazing animals by the bottle, had trained them, bathed them, played with them, cared for them, fed them, cleaned up after them, and still continue to do it all and are thankful for the opportunity and ability to do so. Not only are they all a part of our family, but our extended family loves them all as well.

One day my sister and I had been leaving our brother’s house and as we walked past his neighbor’s porch, we noticed there were about 9 kittens slowly walking and playing in and outside a large cage. We asked if they were for sale, they weren’t, but because the ASPCA was actually on their way to pick them up since the owner was unable to provide for all of them alongside the cats she already had. However, she agreed to let me choose one of my choice before they arrived. I chose Kyra, not only because I loved her cinnamon swirl fur, but I admired her effort and ability to make her way towards me, as if she knew right then and there I had to make that decision. Since then, our house has been her home.

Kaine had been given to me on mother’s day from my fiancé. He opened the door and there he was with his bright blue-collar, wagging his tail ready to play and be held. We love him and he returns the love gracefully. We don’t know much about his past before he entered our lives, but we know what the possibilities for his life could have been. He was put up for sale by someone in the neighborhood we use to live in, and we know that as a male Red Nosed Pit-bull, he may be forced into living a life of fear, violence and danger due to his breed, and never given the chance to be that loving and affectionate dog he is today. Unfortunately, pit-bulls are given labels and are stereotyped, but that’s not any different from an individual profiling and discriminating another due to their race or religion. Due to Kaine’s situation, Mothers Day in effect, and my fiancé knowing how I feel and my stance when it comes to less fortunate issues, he knew it would make my gift even more special.

I love them both so very much!

Kylie was abandoned after her birth when the woman who had once owned her mother had moved and left all of them there in the empty house. They were only 2 weeks old. The neighbor had found them, nurtured them as much as he could, and decided to give them away for free to those who he knew would take good care of them. He happened to be my mother in laws friend so we were both given a kitten of our choice. Kylie was, and still is very adorable. When she was a kitten, she had a wondering left eye that I was worried may have a detachment so I felt even more compassion towards her. I chose her due to the love I felt immediately after I seen her. I wasn’t too sure at the time if her eye would be like that permanently, or if it was just a birth effect that she would grow out of, but I knew she would be loved regardless in my family. I was told to give it time and her eye may set itself in place naturally, it did in fact just a couple of days later. If that man had never saved them , who knows where my Kylie would have been or treated.

Not everyone can care for animals though, some can’t afford too. I would say may not have the time, but c’mon, as busy of a super woman as I am, along with the many other busy bodies I know with animal(s) to care for, that can’t be possible or an acceptable reason. Unless of course you are always traveling and are never home, then maybe so.

In my personal opinion, cats do not need an owner, they just need a safe environment to live in, maybe food, but they’re capable of finding their own source. They can survive on their own and are very independent, cleanly and intelligent which is why I love their company. Dogs however, have a more immature state of mind and are in more need of attention and play. They seem to stay in a child’s mind set throughout their life but become able to grow more loyal, loving and secure relationships easier.

 Having animals isn’t much different from having children. They require both the same needs besides clothing, unless of course you live in Beverly Hills. Unlike humans, animals can only signal,and cant speak the same language to tell you what they want or feel so communication which is key in any relationship, is limited. However, with children, if needed, you can get assistance in the care and support of them for food, medical, shelter, cash, utility payments, job search, etc with available government programs, with or without more help by their other parent/guardian and even tax credit incentives. Having animals takes 100% independence to care for. So as a single pet owner, I guess it is correct to say you’re a real single mother/ father.  Their medical bills to food is of the owners responsibility, and it isn’t cheap.  Toilet paper and Pampers overtime are cheaper than forever needing kitty litter.

 If I didn’t enter their life, who knows what could have happened to them. They could have ended up in a shelter and then released or put up for adoption. Regardless, Kylie, Kyra and Kaine, along with all other animals around the globe deserve to be treated humanly. They could have actually ended up in a better home than mines that included more amenities but I know that what I have and can offer to them is more than they need and will always be available.

Animals deserve all the love and rights that we expect as humans to have. Throughout the year,  donations are needed to help with the shelter, and support of animals in shelters, and in the wild. You don’t have to donate a lot. Any amount is enough to add some assistance for an animal in need whether its money towards a shelter’s electric bill or food count, a private veterinarian practice, or food and fresh water for those who are stray . I have attached some links where you can also learn more about animals and how you can help in their survival and well-being.

Why not help those who would do anything for us?                                              Samantha Jonas-Rongo

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Click here to donate to the ASPCA

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Click here to donate, adopt or learn more about the North Shore Animal League

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